Ever wondered why what you feel, you feel when you get up on the stage or try to talk with that new girl in your class?
No. Well, no problem I will get you wondering.
That’s rejection getting hold of you. The fear of getting denied, the fear of getting to hear that words which convey sense of ‘no’ ness. This fear gets up whenever you decide to speak up, speak up on stage. Some call it stage fear, I call it fear of getting rejected. Fear of getting rejected by your scrummage.
And, this fear is at full force when asking her out. And there are times when I wonder what would the world be like if we experience a fear of rejection while hurling insults at each other, similar to what we fell while proposing.
So, it really should have been this way. The world would have been such a “lovely” place. The most confident of us would be giving insults. They would have been the ‘playboys’.
For those who have never experienced this feel of rejection, basically those of you who do not have stage fear, try this.
Go to a stranger (I would recommend a well-built man) and ask for 1000 rupees straight. The feeling that you will get while going to him is this so-called stage fear. And he will probably say no, and in a way you will probably not like, cause this is India.
Hang on and I will explain it to you how I got rid of this fear, and how you can too.
Now starts the real talk. Is rejection really important in life? Lets get the antonym do work as well. Does acceptance and rejection really have to do something or at least anything in your life?? Most of you would say yes, acceptance is bliss. We love acceptance but not getting rejected.
Now, embracing the original sassy nature of mine, I will link this whole thing about rejection and acceptance to my previous blog. So if you haven’t yet checked it out, check it out now in ...here...
So there, I talked a lot about combination and stuff.
Combination is altogether acceptance and refusal combined in an illusively awesome way.
Combination happens when acceptance happens and rejection of what does not suit in it.
Basically, what I mean to say can be explained by physics. Consider an atom, if it is massive it ‘rejects’ electrons and other awesome particles and radiation every now and then. And when it accepts, there happens to be a new bond formation in there.
So here in life, we accept each others habits, emotions, feelings and we happen to form a bond between ourselves.
So what are you? A perfect symmetry of acceptance and rejections combined.
Atoms reject as well. Those fundamental particles. But what do physicists call it? They call it by this fancy name — Decay. And they have a whole force explaining this as well. That’s kinda cool. It’s called weak nuclear force.
So, the constant fear of “decay” decays you.
But. What is the fault of rejection that you fear it? This odd-looking question has a deep understanding hidden beneath it. You are frightened by that cockroach as well. So why not treat this rejection as if it is a tiny cockroach?
Learn to live with it. And how? Get an encounter with it now and then, again and again. And after sometime you will notice that the cockroach that you feared the previous time you saw seems like just another thing which exists with you on this not-so-huge planet.
Acceptance and rejection are things which made you. Don’t let them destroy you. Would Shirley Setia be decayed by this fear of rejection, would we be able to enjoy her melodious voice and smile? And Casey Niestat be destroyed by being rejected again and again would we have had an amazing vlogger as he is right now? Definitely not.
And if you have made it this far. Thanks.!! Thank you from the core of my heart.
And this is why i love writing. When i was thinking, researching about this, I found a gem on TED. It is the best talk i have ever came across. I am gonna link it right here.
Hope you enjoyed this write up of mine. Stay tuned. Third one coming soon. Thank you for reading again.
Ayaan Y Retiwala